Catering to a Women

This word "cater" always get misconstrued by men when it comes to "Catering to women" or "catering to A Woman" I should say...
To cater means to provide with what is needed or required...

Where men go wrong is that we (yes I said we cause I was in that position in one point of time) think "Catering" to a women is about all the incentives in the relationship, the roses, massages, going out to eat, etc. Which it is, but there is a time and place for everything.
Now I will tell you the trick to really "Cater" to a women.


1) Investing time into one women:
Time is a precious thing in life we should try not to waste and use it as wisely as we can. Investing in one woman is so much more less work then 2. When your women is not with you don't use this time to spend with someone who is not going to do any good for you other then a good nut. Use this time to invest in your self. Use this time to plan for tomorrow, in your future, in your relationship, in your hustle, etc. Think about the 2 hours you could of spent that could of got you ahead in pretty much anything.

Another thing is to spend time with a women in different aspects. when you both come home to work, find a mutual relax thing to do to engulf you and her both. When you are both off I'm not saying spend the whole day with her, but include her in something. Meaning something you want to do and she iS invited with no question.

All in all: Why not perfect learning about one women then trying to be the "jack of all trades"?


2) Simplicity is sometimes the most complex thing to do:
just showing how much appreciation you have for one person with giving her space as well as spending time with her in their interest and hobbies. By doing this you show her you know her just a bit, whether you like the hobby or not, this will show the small things you will go out your way to do with her considering its a personal interests. Now say her interests/hobby is something that will not necessarily involve you directly, example reading a book, painting, etc. Then again do it with her.

Example: Her hobby is reading, you happen to hate reading. This is what u do in this situation. You take the time out to buy her a book, (if your smart please find out her favorite author / genre of books she like and make sure she DON'T have it). Then what you need to do is get something you will read if you don't read! Pick up a comic book, gamer magazine, etc. Then when you bring the book to her to read with her, she will 1) love for you it 2) when you whip out your book she will laugh, call you you stupi (in a good way) but 3) this shows what you are willing to do for her.
Now thinking about, its like a compromise! Cause you read what you want, your still in the room, and still spending time with her! (FYI: spending time with someone doesn't necessarily mean to be engaging in activities together, but its also about being in each others presence in an enjoyable atmosphere). That's a connection that is tricky but once you have it, you have it.

Example 2: same as above but say her hobby is painting, get all the tools for her, etc. And get yourself a coloring book!

All in all: Why not invest in someones interest to gain a lifetime of happiness?

3) Falling into place:
If everything is balanced, everything shall fall into place and "Catering" shall be not as hard or "Extra" as it should be if you wish to say. Think about it, if men make their women happy on the natural things they SUPPOSE (suppose = things men got themselves into and the women did not force them to get in the relationship) to do, then the incentives to "CATERING" should be more enjoyable.

Earlier I said Catering means to provide with what is needed or required... What a girl needs is not to be showered in roses, balloons, and gifts, these are all things that are tangible that will or cable of being lost or destroyed. What is required is to provide this humane need that we are mentally fixed to need that we can't acquire our self. With 1 and 2 in place and effective you are providing many other things I have failed to mention: security, comfort, assurance, insurance, trust, happiness, and maybe love.

Then from there the Incentives a female receives on all those girly holidays - Valentines day, anniversaries, B-days, mothers day, etc. Now guys, now don't go around saying that Zues said "men only had to get incentives on these day" - Women love surprises, so never stop the "just cause". I'm just saying that gifts don't fix everything and use that time to do something worth more last longing.

I can ramble on with more things... But let's just start here fellas, ladies, get them guys on point or get them to read this!

Ladies ill make a "Cater pt. 2" later...

Cliché quote: “No girl who is going to marry need bother to win a college degree; she just naturally becomes a ''Master of Arts'' and a ''Doctor of Philosophy'' after catering to an ordinary man for a few years.”

Zues quote: Jay-z had "Big Pimpin" and Beyoncé had "Cater to you" - they knew there was a place and time for everything.

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DIE JULY 16th ! {The secret}

Your not gonna know what, who, where - but you will know when and why!

DAM YOU JULY 16th !!!

{As a man, "me", cry and write, I admit. Please know that I am also human amongst beast, and a beast amongst human}

The Day:

1: the day it ended
2: the day it started

1: the day it started
2 the day it ended

1: the day the pain started
2 the day the pain will begin

1: the day the pain began
2 the day the pain started

1: to far back to remember
2: not that far back to remember

1: there was no turning back
2 didn't know how to turn back

1: didn't want to but had to
2: didn't have to but wanted to

1: what do I do now
2: where do "I" go now

1: days seem longer
2: days won't speed up

1: back to square one
2: back in a square

1: "teach me how to love"
2: "love, so many things I got to tell you"

1: confused
2 confused

1: is there any where for me to go
2: where should I go from now

1: its been to long
2: its been to long

1: the peak of it all
2 the peak of it all

1: I lost it all
2: I'm losing it

1: the consequences I pay for my actions
2: the consequences I pay for our actions

1: lost
2: lost

1: what have I done
2 what have I done

1: has it been forever
2: it feels like forever

1: I wake to know I have nothing
2: "I" wake to know I have gained nothing

1: what should I do now
2: what should I do now

1: what did I lead my self into
2: what did I get myself into

1: its hard to say good bye
2: why don't you understand good bye

1: I run away
2: "I" walk away

1: silence is the solution
2: loud is the solution

1: I did it to myself
2: I did it to myself

1: anniversary to death
2: anniversary that was false

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A friend said to me "When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change, then you'll make a difference"

At first I didn't understand this, and just like with many things in life I probably never will. Just as a rubber band has 1,000 uses - so does a quote!

So as I grew internally, how I translated it is, we as people, get stuck in this state of comfortability, stuck in comfortability you get stuck in the state of "the usual", when you get stuck in the usual its hard to break out of routine. In a negative aspect, when in these "states", we refrain to change cause when we can know what's gonna happen next, we as people, can control our environment.
{The pain of staying the same}

Then there comes a day, when a person gets very tired and weary. How you know is when you get stuck in a position where your saying everything in your head that's gonna happen, and now your in a state of "numb", the dumb stare, the silence, now when the usual comes, you predicting the next move. After this "numbness", you begin to move, after all the pain, you for some reason no longer feel, then and only then you will first mentally have a shift, secondly your body will make an adjustment, and thirdly your mind and body will start it. full revision.
{then you'll make a difference}

Cliché Quote: "The less routine the more life"

Zues Quote: Make a change off pain, you wasted a life - make a change at the surface of pain, you preserve a life time.

"What If" factor

Just a TOD for today... Take it how u want it...

A friend called me today and asked what am I doing with myself now and days. Simple answer - I started a Promotion company that takes up most of time but its well worth it because I want to see where this goes.

Friend: "I'm glad that you have done that, allot of people don't understand the sacrifices one needs to take to achieve success, or not even success, but just to see where it could go or even if you have the capability to do so. Do it while your young and have the energy to do it. Don't want to get caught in the "what if" factor. Things come around once in a life time, and the lucky ones run into it twice, and even then some people struggle to go for it."

Me: I know what you mean for different instances. The young and the restless I am for many reasons.

Friend: its funny you say that cause to be restless meaning you are full of life, as sleepy as you might be, all we can do is rest. This world is to much full of opportunity, but some get stuck in the 40 hour monday - friday work week and don't venture. Assuming vacation is a venture... Lol.

Me: I know actually what you mean. My adventure to vegas, bought my flight tickets hours prior to leaving - and a trip I planned for months - just winged it when I got there with not a care in the world!

Friend: that's exactly the attitude. You have to realize that some people are forced to success, for example the author for the Harry Potter books was Homeless or as she said "as poor as can be without a home", and all she did was write, the author's escape for reality.
Then you have those with a choice, as for you, good chef job,good location, worked close to home. No need to start a business and let others deal with the stress of people. Right? Be your on boss and live by your own rules they say!

Me: only if I had took this approach since day one then I would have allot more to talk about, or should I say less to talk about... Depending on how one looks at it.
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All in all: just do it, let the "what if" factor be the remains of a positive phrase. "What if I never took that chance, I wouldn't have been where I am today" - that's what should be said.

Knowledge is not only what you know - but also applying.

Dedication for Motivation

Dedication for Motivation

This is dedicated to my cousin who asked me one day, “how do you stay motivated?” I’m sorry for taking so long to answer but there is never a right time, but there is always a time that can be convenient.

Definition:
Motivation:
1. The reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
2. The general desire or willingness of someone to do something

Dedication:
1. The quality of being dedicated or committed to a task or purpose.
2. The words with which a book or other artistic work is dedicated

Proceeding:
The reason I start off with the definitions is because even I myself forgets the “Missionary” meaning of the word. Sometimes in search of something, we forget the root of things that has the answer to everything!

Here are simple steps to help you out and we will keep it simple and any further questions anyone may ask me…

Step 1: Vision
You tell yourself and talk to your self what is it that you want to accomplish, achieve, become, be, in the long term? What is it? Then you repeat what it is, then you repeat what it is, then you repeat what it is, then you repeat what it is, then you repeat what it is. Then you must see how you see how you feel when you say it. If it feels great to say, then that’s a start of a great journey

Step 2: Strategy
You must plan the things you must do in order to achieve your “vision”. Now this step is tricky because the things that we have planned will always steer off course, but we must know that those things are ONLY obstacles and challenges to make it seem we are going the wrong way. Just know that sometimes the fork In the road leads all to the same place, the only difference is timing. Some stumble the long road, and some are lucky to come across the short one.

Step 3: The dedication
a) This “quality” and this “commitment” we speak of, where does that derive from? I must say again the root, what is it that made you wake up and say I… or today I...? This is where the quality starts, where you have to measure the importance of one thing compared to another. That same process of decision that determines whether you like Pepsi or Coke better, is the same factors we must apply to the bigger substances of life. We must taste, determine, then proceed. From here you will determine the level of commitment we apply. Then you must learn that commitment does inquire sacrifice, whether it be time, sleep, missing events, etc.

b) In reference to the second definition, we usually “dedicate” our hard work for someone, but in my opinion, never forget our own self. That should be just as much reason if not more. We can always want more for the next person, but we can even give more if we can give ourself more. Without the lack of, we can be resourceful to others just as much, if not more.

Step 4: The Motivation
“How do you stay motivated?” she ask...
Text book answer: When someone wants something real bad, there is no questioning whether or not you want to continue, the only thing every morning should be what’s next? What do I have to accomplish today? What’s my next move? You should have every reason not to, and every reason to do so. This should be a desire that has an endless burn. This endless feeling that is non-stop, cause nothing will be able to get in your way.

Zues answer: (true stories) I been working doing something I love for 7 years, and been promoting for 2 years as I worked. I started a promotion company in February with someone because we shared a vision which could work. Putting 50 hours on two things I loved a week was exhausting but I did it. Then about two weeks ago, I woke up late for work (day job), and the first thing I thought was “Fuck everyone”. In the end I have to make decisions that will make me happy, and that would suit my best interest. I love cooking, and I know I can always cook! That will never go away, but to start a company, and push it further is not a “apply to a job” and just wait kind of thing, To obtain what I want, I must go for it, cause it is not going to me, and at that moment, I QUIT!

I took the 50 hours I was using for my day job and re-invested in myself. Sleep (I forgot how that felt), the company, for myself and the most important thing, WRITING!

Don’t get me wrong, in doing this all, I think about my mom, my siblings, my grandma’s and hold on to what my grandmother says to me always, “shonie ponie, you never want a girl beneath you, you want her at your level or higher, just as smart or smarter”. Well cuzo, if I’m the bottom, I don’t want a bottom bitch, I need to be at the top to have top bitches, think about it!

At the end of the day, again, no one is going to do things for you, you have to do it yourself and only you can exceed your expectations. Second thing is, sometimes you really can’t think about it, and just do it, if you’re not going to do things for you to exceed in life, then I hope your happy where you at. I make the most of where I am with the capabilities I have, but I will always be hungry for me, and I will eat!!!

No quotes… just facts, no gimmicks

Zues here, Over and out...